When discussing polyamory and/or consensual non-monogamy, people tend to ask about jealousy, fear, guilt, worry, etc. While all those are valid concerns, let's talk about the other side: The awesomeness of being in a polyamorous relationship. We'll discuss the benefits, joy, trust, happiness, love, kindness, and euphoric feelings one can have with multiple partners.
”Should I? Hmmm, maybe not. Well, ok I should. But what about...? Nah, it'll be fine. On the other hand, maybe not."
Have you ever had that conversation with yourself? I like to call it the ping-pong match in our head. Or maybe it's like a hamster in a wheel that keeps going round and round. Have you ever done so much overthinking that it mentally exhausts you and then you have no desire to physically do the thing you were debating about doing because you talked yourself out of it? Yeah, I've been there. WE all have been there. For many of us overthinking is the norm. We spend so much time thinking that when it comes to taking ACTION, we have nothing left in us.
"I'm not good enough...or smart enough...or pretty enough...or talented enough...or whatever enough."
Have you ever said this about yourself? Maybe the verbiage was different. Either way, have you ever had insecurities or doubts or questioned yourself, your being, your brain, your feelings, your thoughts? YEP. ME TOO. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Insecurities are part of life and that's ok. We certainly can't be without insecurities. Let's talk about how to work WITH our insecurities instead of thinking they will magically go away.