NOTE: ABOUT WOMEN events are normally on the 3rd Wednesday of the month. Due to the 3rd Wednesday being close to the holidays, this month it’s moved to the 2nd Wednesday. We’ll be back on the 3rd Wednesday in 2018.It’s the end of the year. We are wrapping things up...
What is your comfort zone? Is it easier to stay there than to do something different? It’s called comfort for a reason - it’s comfortable - it’s what we know. But what if that was what is holding us back from trying something new? I feel we are either in "BINGE MODE" or "CLEANSE MODE." All or nothing. There has to be a happy medium in between.
Insecurities. Seriously - EVERYONE has them. We are all scared of something or fear something. We have doubts and uncertainties. We can be indecisive. We are hesitant on making decisions. What if we pick the wrong one? What if we make the wrong decision? At times, our insecurities can hold us back. It can be debilitating.
We all have that thing in life that is holding us back. Most of the time it is OURSELVES that is holding us back. WE are the ones that are not making awesomeness happen. WE are the ones saying we are not ready or good enough or smart enough or we don’t have enough time or not enough money or [place your reasoning here]. Here’s the deal - we are never going to be ready. We are never going to feel like it. We have to just jump in and do it.
Women are taught to be passive or aggressive but NOT assertive. We are not taught to ask for what we want. We are not taught to ask for help. Society has shown us to be passive and when things don't work out, we get angry and frustrated and wonder why we didn't get what we wanted.
Having regrets in life suuuuucks! No one wants that. Regrets of doing something and especially regrets of NOT doing something. We have to ask ourselves - If I don’t do that thing, will I regret it? But it’s also scary to do things that our out of our comfort zone.
In my Facebook group - Nikki Nigl's ABOUT WOMEN - I have been asking a Question of the Day (QOTD) every day since November 14, 2015. This art exhibit will have every single question since that first day. I have not missed a day. I will be showcasing each and every QOTD from November 14, 2015 - September 8, 2017. 600+ questions! What up!
Ah yes! Denial. It’s so easy to hang out in denial because nothing has to happen there. We don’t have to do anything. We don’t have to admit anything. We don’t have say anything. It’s still. It’s safe. Sounds kind of awesome. Well at least for a little bit. Then at some point, hanging out in denial isn’t cool. Things start to bubble. They start to emerge. Then we might meet denial’s friend guilt and possibly shame. And possibly some other emotions too.
That feeling of stillness and not sure what to do and just feeling stuck. And sometimes it’s not just stuck but it’s STUCK. CAPITAL LETTERS STUCK. Yeah. Let’s talk about this. Let’s have this convHERsation. Whether it’s with our mental state or physical state (Hint: It’s probably both), our job, our career, our family, our friends, our activity, our life path, or all of the above - we get this feeling from time to time.
This is a SUPER SPECIAL event! Please join us. This is the 3rd ANNIVERSARY of ABOUT WOMEN. What up!
First let me say that normally the ABOUT WOMEN events are on the 3rd Wednesday every month but this month it’s on the 2nd Wednesday of the month. Nikki will be out of town the 3rd week of April.
We all feel that our shit isn’t together. And we all think that everyone else has THEIR shit together and we are the ones that are hot messes. No way. We are all works in progress.
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We are all vulnerable. And vulnerable means something different to different people. Men are. Women are. Physically. Mentally. Socially. Emotionally. You name it. And being vulnerable is ok. It’s an aspect of being a human being. We are not robots. What does it mean to you?
Ah yes. Letting go. Easier said than done. But sometimes we do have to let go in order to move forward. We need to learn how to not past stress (and really, not future stress either) and live in the present. Once again, I know, I know, it’s easier said than done.
Sometimes we get a case of the “I don’t wannas” where we just don’t feel like doing something. Work. Exercise. Eating healthy. To-do lists. Anything. Everything. We lose our motivation for these things and more. How do we get our motivation back? How do we move forward? How do we get past the case of the “I don’t wannas”?
We have relationships with others and with ourselves. They can be fun, exciting, energetic, awesome, frustrating, and sometimes complicated. There are so many factors - communication, past experience, desires, expectations, baggage, intentions, perception, and so much more.
Believing in ourself can be difficult. This can impact how we perform in many different areas in our lives. Relationships. Career. Love. Health. Wealth. Or the absence of these things. Our belief, or lack of belief, can affect our performance in these areas. And our beliefs can propel us forward or hold us back.
Women are Awesome, Beautiful, Courageous, Dynamic, Excellent, Fantastic, and the alphabet list continues on. We get things done, we solve problems, we take care of others and ourselves. Unfortunately, in society - women are damned if we do and damned if we don't. What we do is never good enough. BUT WE ARE ENOUGH! Yes, we have come a long way but there is so much more that needs to get done.
Home means something different to each and everyone of us. For some it represents safety and comfort and for others, it might represent the opposite. Home isn't necessarily the place where we sleep at night. Maybe it's where our parents live or it's in a different city or state. Or home can be on the road and traveling from place to place. It's up to you.
We have all experienced loss. Sometimes it's the loss of a person, sometimes it's the loss of an experience, a moment, a city, an object, or an opportunity. Losses are part of life. It sucks I know. But this is the way it goes. With every loss, there is a gain. It might not feel like it at the time but we learn something from each and every experience - even the losses. Please join the discussion.
Deep breath, DOUBTS. Yeah, they suck. But here's the deal, we ALL have them. We ALL have that moment of questioning ourselves and what we are doing. Relationships. Jobs. Love. Life. I don't know, EVERYTHING! Sometimes I question, did I order the right food? Did I pick the right restaurant? Or what about those doubts we get about our BIG choices in life. Career path? Oh my goodness, now we're getting a little deep.
SEX! Yeah, That's right. We are having this conversation. And you know, we are also talking about SEXUALITY too. They work together. So let's do it. Let's have this discussion. Let's talk openly and judgment-free on this topic. Can it be done?! Oh hell yeah! Because it's only weird if you make it weird.
Ah, confidence. Some days we have it. And some days we don't. Sometimes it depends on what we are wearing. What our hair is doing. Are we wearing makeup? Did I look at any fashion magazines lately? And then of course there are other factors such as our performance when we are at work. Or how about where we are in our place in life? Is it where you want to be? Are you nervous to take things to the next level? Relationships? Jobs? Love? Etc.
Join Nikki Nigl at Lolë Southport Chicago for a convHERsation on the ABCs of how women are socialized along with relearning our ABCs. We will discuss how to use your voice for good to get what you want. This conversation will be judgment-free and performed in a safe space. She will help you be a verbal ninja. This will be a workshop based on Nikki Nigl's TEDxNEIU Talk.
Also, come early to shop, as all participants receive 20% off full price, in stock pieces from the Spring Summer 2016 Collection
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Catwoman got your tongue? Learning how to be a successful public speaker is as easy as learning your ABCs! Well maybe not, but Women’s EmpowHERment Coach Nikki Nigl will help ease your fears, and teach you how to be a verbal ninja.